You and I have a problem in common. In fact, all humans share this trait. Some recognize they have it. Others either don’t recognize it or deny they have it.
Time management intrigues me. Way back when, when I was a bed and breakfast innkeeper, I learned from a time management expert that everyone needed to block their time, and be committed to those time blocks. Since then, I’ve felt there has to be a better way. That was further reinforced when I was a real estate agent. My broker followed the advice, blocking his time — and that meant we couldn’t get his input on contracts except during specific times. That seemed just as crazy. I felt then that when you are in the service industry, time management took on a different tenor than it did for those in traditional office jobs.
The story of the bricklayers moved me. Have you heard this story? Let me tell it to make sure we’re talking about the same story.
A visitor came across a bricklayer hard at work. The visitor asked what the bricklayer was doing. “I’m stacking bricks”, came the answer.
Most of my clients feel stuck — they don’t quite know which way to turn to change their lives.
Fear grips them — fear of failure, fear of not being liked, fear of being alone, and even fear of change. They have found that a new mindset, new tools, and support have helped them overcome those things that have held them back. That work has given them new thoughts, and thus new realities.
Those reminders to stop — or at least slow down — and take stock of life or a situation happen regularly. Sometimes it’s a deer jumping in front of me, sometimes it’s a string of red lights that remind me to not take life so seriously. Sometimes that message to slow down means a mental slow down, sometimes it means a physical slow down. Sometimes the message I’m taking stock of is that I was in the wrong job, or with friends who weren’t supportive of me and therefore not good for me to hang with. Other times I get to learn that I can’t successfully do so many things at once, if I want to avoid accidents big and small.
People are wired for connection to other people.
Historically, connection was for security and safety. Ancient peoples relied on each other for food, shelter, safety and trade. Whether we lived on vast plains, throughout majestic mountains, or in sheltering caves, they stayed connected.
Listening to the fear rise from people in so many areas of life dismays me. It seems that people are looking for excuses to blame others for their fear. I see it in politics, world news, health issues, the price of gas — you name it, people find something to be afraid of and to blame others for.
It seems the more technology we have as time-saving tools, the less time we have! Why is that? Is it that the technology isn’t so time-saving? Or, could it be that fill up our “spare time” with more and more?
This is the first in a series on how to get more….
I saw a Facebook post that stated everyone really wants the same thing – more. More love, more money, more friends, more toys, more promotions, etc. The idea intrigued me, so I told my Facebook friends about the post and asked them what they wanted more of. The answers were eye opening! And fun.