Let’s jump into the strengths vs weaknesses debate I hear “the gurus” discuss. The opinions range among: focus on your weaknesses to make them strong; ignore your strengths; ignore your weaknesses; focus on your strengths. Eegads! Which way do you turn with that kind of discussion going on around you?
Here’s a tidbit you probably don’t know about me: I cherish spiders and the role they play on Earth. I don’t cuddle with them or get up-close-and-personal – I give them space. I also do what I can to save their lives.
Maryland’s Eastern Shore used to be such a great playground for me! Riding the waves with my body as the surfing vehicle was so much fun to learn to do! Hunting the best wave and then riding it to the shore was thrilling! For days I perfected my skills…until the last wave of the trip. I was mid-way into diving into a wave when from the corner of my eye I caught sight of an even better wave, so I turned into it. The original wave caught me and twisted me, wrenching my neck in the process. Ouch!
I see gratitude and hear appreciation as people tell me how I’ve inspired them to become sugar-free, or at least to greatly reduce their sugar intake. People are amazed that I would give up alcohol (that’s a positive and negative sense of amazement on their part, by the way!) A common question is that without sugar and alcohol, which I also gave up since its effect on the body is so similar to sugar, how do I celebrate? You should see me!
Sheer determination and purpose. With its head thrown back, wings pressed against its body, and its feathers barely moving from the speed of the movement, the phoenix rose from the ashes on a mission. What a vision of transformation as it relates to living your truth and celebrating life!
I have a story about light overcoming dark. A story that I lived recently. A story you might benefit from.
The Doors sang about transformations and breakthroughs in their 1967 single, Break On Through (To The Other Side). The song starts with this verse: “You know the day destroys the night; Night divides the day; Tried to run, tried to hide; Break on through to the other side”. Day, night, run, hide — yep, there’s a challenge in this.
When a friend asked me what my “lessons” were from walking the Camino de Santiago, an 800 km (500 mile) walk from the French Pyrenees across northern Spain to the city of Santiago, I had an answer ready: it is something I thought about along the way, and in the months following. After sharing with him the three biggest lessons I gained, one “big” lesson really came to mind.
If you trip yourself up with your plans for productivity it’s time to take a chill pill, sit back, and be kinder to yourself.
This article is a continuation of the series I started about helping ADDers move beyond shame and fear. It’s a three-step process from the framework I developed: Strengths. Superpower. Stepping Up. This final article in the series addresses Stepping Up.
This is where you pull it all together. If you have read the Strength and Superpower articles, this article will make more sense to you. You have learned and started “wearing” your strengths. You know your superpower and “keep it by your side” for use when needed. And now it’s time to see and feel the benefit of this work.