Time management intrigues me. Way back when, when I was a bed and breakfast innkeeper, I learned from a time management expert that everyone needed to block their time, and be committed to those time blocks. Since then, I’ve felt there has to be a better way. That was further reinforced when I was a real estate agent. My broker followed the advice, blocking his time — and that meant we couldn’t get his input on contracts except during specific times. That seemed just as crazy. I felt then that when you are in the service industry, time management took on a different tenor than it did for those in traditional office jobs.
Being in charge of your mind opens untold freedoms to you. Viktor Frankl learned during his Auschwitz internment that even though he was locked up and abused, his mind was free to choose how he responded to those who abused him. Nelson Mandela had the same experience during his 27 years in South African prisons. They both chose to be kind, optimistic, and forgive their transgressors. They both chose to make something of their lives. If they can master their minds, so can you.
The quote, “Busy is a choice. Stress is a choice. Joy is a choice. Choose well.”, is one I love because it’s a reminder that you choose your life. Maybe not all the things that happen to you, but for sure the way you react and respond to those things. You choose your level of presence and mindfulness. You choose how effective a human you are.
Do you stand up for yourself? Do you stand up for what’s right? That’s part of what living “bravely” is about. Have you stopped to consider your level of bravery? Do you challenge yourself to work through your fears, like in doing things you’ve never done before and are uncomfortable thinking about? That’s another aspect of living “bravely”. So, let me dig a bit deeper and ask you if you are decisive, confident, and resilient? Can you live more boldly?
What is it you think about when you hear me talk about living an energized life? Do you dismiss my words thinking you have enough energy, after all you get up (barely?), you perform your daily activities (sorta?), and you interact with people during the day (kinda?), and that’s all there is to living an energized life. Right? Not quite.
Having clarity supports clearer communication. When you aren’t clear with your thoughts and wants, you can fall into shaming patterns, garble your messages to others or not be forthright, and you can give away your personal power. Surprising what a lack of clarity can do to your life, isn’t it.
Where is your focus? Our lives follow our focus, and our habits lead our success — success at whatever it is we are tackling and working on, be it personal or business. Do you need more focus to succeed?
The advice you give others may apply to yourself more than you think. For example, I’ve coached people for years to establish rules, boundaries, and limitations in their businesses — for their clients and staff. That advice is good for you, too!
Fences make good neighbors. Think of rules, boundaries, and limitations as a fence, and think of what a good life that can make for you. (And if you don’t grasp that immediately, read on!)
You want people to treat you in specific ways, and not treat you in specific ways. You pave the way for the respect you get with the rules you make for your life. Take note, though, that these boundaries also remind you what you will allow in your life, for yourself and for others.