Mean What You Say

Having clarity supports clearer communication. When you aren’t clear with your thoughts and wants, you can fall into shaming patterns, garble your messages to others or not be forthright, and you can give away your personal power. Surprising what a lack of clarity can do to your life, isn’t it.

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Fences Make Good Lives

The advice you give others may apply to yourself more than you think. For example, I’ve coached people for years to establish rules, boundaries, and limitations in their businesses — for their clients and staff. That advice is good for you, too!

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The Grasshopper And The Ant

The fable of the grasshopper and the ant paints the picture that play is bad and work is good, or at least that living for today gets you into trouble, and planning ahead lets you thrive. Depending on the version you encounter, you may hear morals of prepare for lean times or die, plan for the future, help the needy with your resources, or even something like there’s a time for “work” and a time for “play”. You can’t disagree that having fun is much easier and more satisfying in the moment than working all the time.

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Living My Three Words

The evolution of “my three words” has been fun to watch. Your three words describe how you want to be seen by others, and who you are or want to be. Do you know your three words? Close your eyes, breathe in and out a few times, and see what three words come to you.

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The Secret to Better Sleep

Friends and clients repeatedly ask me how they can improve their sleep for better energy. I have offered pat answers, gleaned from articles and books, and now want to give more concrete answers and explanations than those answers have offered. The one shared suggestion that has been most resisted is the one to turn off your technology — specifically, your blue-light-emitting technology— a “few hours” before bed. Both professional and personal advice for what a few hours means ranges from 90 minutes to three hours.

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Why Do You Need Ikigai?

You probably don’t get asked that question very often, do you? Why do you need ikigai?

First, let me explain what it is so you can better contemplate why you need it. Ikigai is Japanese for “your reason for being” or “why you get up in the morning”. It further expands to your reason to enjoy life.

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Bumblebee Passion

This “Week of Passion” started after watching a speech Elizabeth Gilbert gave with the suggestion of not living a life of passion but instead to be willing to flit among your various interests. Her message is more complex than that, yet I think my summary is adequate for my present purpose here.

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