Times have changed when it comes to the discussion of getting older. It’s an interesting evolution that has become more poignant with the COVID-19 pandemic.
I’m going to show you what it means to me to get better — not older — in style. That was the name of my recent article. And there I talked about hydration, and brain activity, and gratitude. And I can incorporate all but the specific of hydration today, because I decided that I couldn’t carry my water bottle and my phone at the same time. So, I just decided to leave the water bottle at home. You know what it means to stay hydrated.
Think about how you want to live your life, especially your later years. It involves staying youthful and maintaining a positive outlook on life. Getting older leads you to your destiny, one day at a time. Do it in style!
I was listening to some music recently and heard the phrase, “Oldies but goodies.” I had to stop and think about that for a second since here I am promoting that getting older is getting better. So, having the oldies but goodies seemed like a negative twist on that. Yeah, it’s saying we like them, but there’s still a ding, a put down in that. There’s something there that’s unsettling.
I used to think that the best part about growing older was that I could make my own rules, like starting dinner with dessert if I wanted. But, I’m finding there are even better benefits of growing older, and they include realizing that while I may be growing older, I’m not getting older — I’m getting better. Better? Yes, better.
I recently wrote an article about finally learning my parent’s lesson, their lesson of a long life — of longevity. Longevity is a matching of lifespan and healthspan. But you and I both know that people can live a long time without having good health or good life in the sense of attitude and heart.
Sometimes you don’t see the lessons and gifts you are given until it’s too late to say thank you. That’s the case with me about the lessons on living my parents gave me.
My parents were active people and my mom was a fireball. They were involved in so many different activities and services. They took dance lessons, played bridge, water skied; Dad golfed, and Mom played tennis.
I’ve long marveled at the people who look as if they can work effortlessly for others. How do they do that? Why do I struggle with that? I see myself as a team player, an element that seems it would be a desirable trait for an employer. I love helping people make projects come to fruition. I work hard, am loyal and dedicated, and I’m reliable. So, why am I not one of those people who works effortlessly for others?
I recently wrote an article called Decide to Change, Your Future Depends on It. As a coach, I’m frequently asked, “But how do I make this change that we’re talking about?” And I eventually got to the point that I said, “Decide. Draw a line in the sand, step over it. Don’t look back. Continue forward with the new change, the decision that you just made.” It’s for your good. You want to accomplish specific things in your life, certain things, and until you change what’s holding you back, you can’t get there. And, you know, it’s easy to say. It’s not simple to do. It really takes dedication and being in charge of your mind.
Avoiding change is a common human trait. Common in that most people don’t like it, so they avoid it. But, what if the change is good for you? Intellectually you know you need to change something — your diet, sleep patterns, your dental hygiene, or a password — but you avoid it anyway. What’s up with that?