Expectations are assumptions you place on the people and situations in your life. That’s a counter-productive way to go through life.
During a conversation with a friend, I connected two important ideas. Maybe you’ve already made this connection, but it was new to me, at least the way it came together during the conversation.
I’ve decided to be a Lover.
My trip through “ScIreland” was a delight. And I knew the people I interacted with and I were divided by a common language. There were differences in Belfast, for example, not only because of the language differences but also because of the cultural differences. People who have been divided by war — or The Troubles — see life and the world differently than I do. There were differences even between the Catholic and Protestant sections of town. For example, graffiti in the Catholic section wasn’t acceptable while it was almost encouraged in the Protestant section.
If you know my story at all, you know that my ADD was managed until about 20 years ago by living a structured life. In blending my life with my husband’s, I shifted to an unstructured life — though that’s not what I saw it as at the time. Slowly my life started crumbling and I found myself thinking that I needed to incorporate structure back into my life. I sensed my life was better when it was structured.
The story of the bricklayers moved me. Have you heard this story? Let me tell it to make sure we’re talking about the same story.
A visitor came across a bricklayer hard at work. The visitor asked what the bricklayer was doing. “I’m stacking bricks”, came the answer.
On one of my daily walks, I decided to walk my land, so I invited my younger cat to join me. And she did! Now, walking takes on a totally different meaning when you are with a cat who’s watching her back constantly.
Words are powerful. They create images in our minds, feelings in our hearts; they can transport us to another time or place, they can build us up or tear us down. The language we use is important. It shapes attitudes and beliefs. Word usage intrigues me.
One of my early favorite jokes was “What’s black and white and read all over?” You have to hear it to really appreciate the silliness of it. The answer is “A newspaper.”, if you don’t remember this old, bad joke. Part of what I love about jokes is how they open you to so many choices — options and possibilities for solutions. I love having options!
Transformation is inspired from any number of directions, and sometimes from surprising places within you. That’s been true for me. One such transformation was an interesting experience, maybe because it was internally motivated.
Let’s jump into the strengths vs weaknesses debate I hear “the gurus” discuss. The opinions range among: focus on your weaknesses to make them strong; ignore your strengths; ignore your weaknesses; focus on your strengths. Eegads! Which way do you turn with that kind of discussion going on around you?