The holiday season, that period of time between Thanksgiving and New Years (in my book), is filled with food and fun, parties and people, shopping and singing, and cleaning and chaos. We get so caught up in all the things to do that we forget what’s really important — spending quality time with friends and family. It’s a shame, really.
Most of my clients feel stuck — they don’t quite know which way to turn to change their lives.
Fear grips them — fear of failure, fear of not being liked, fear of being alone, and even fear of change. They have found that a new mindset, new tools, and support have helped them overcome those things that have held them back. That work has given them new thoughts, and thus new realities.
People are wired for connection to other people.
Historically, connection was for security and safety. Ancient peoples relied on each other for food, shelter, safety and trade. Whether we lived on vast plains, throughout majestic mountains, or in sheltering caves, they stayed connected.
It seems the more technology we have as time-saving tools, the less time we have! Why is that? Is it that the technology isn’t so time-saving? Or, could it be that fill up our “spare time” with more and more?
This is the first in a series on how to get more….
I saw a Facebook post that stated everyone really wants the same thing – more. More love, more money, more friends, more toys, more promotions, etc. The idea intrigued me, so I told my Facebook friends about the post and asked them what they wanted more of. The answers were eye opening! And fun.
What did you pick up from last week’s blog post on generating your own energy? You were at least reminded of things you knew to do but may have slipped out of the habit of doing. Hopefully you picked up one new habit along the way.
Another energy drain in your life is distraction. Part of the reason distraction is an energy drain is because it takes multiple, frequent decisions. Decision making burns glucose. I talked about that in the blog post “Kit, Help Me Say ‘No’” . Designing your day so that you have as few distractions as possible is more energy conserving than just going with the flow and hoping to get everything done. And that makes for a more productive day too.
Have you practiced saying “no” to more things this last week? Is that habit making your life more focused and productive? How has saying “no” impacted your energy? If saying no has allowed you to more successfully structure a productive day then you should be making fewer daily or hourly decisions, and thus you should have more energy. Right? I hope so!
A friend asked for help in saying ‘No’ more — he’s overwhelmed and stressed.
Yes is the way we live: it’s positive, generous, accommodating, and serving. From an early age we are taught to share of our toys and our time. We continue that pattern into adulthood, adding money to the equation of giving. And the busier life gets, the more opportunity there is to say yes.
Carousels and chaos have so much in common, from my way of thinking. They go ’round and ’round, parts go up and down, there’s noise, and people, and moving parts — just lots going on. One difference is that people enjoy carousels but think they should rid their lives of chaos. I think that the attitude of not having chaos in your life needs to be explored.
Let’s talk about pain. How do you get rid of it? How do you make it go away?
I’m not talking about spiritual pain, or medical pain, but life pain. There is a huge number of resources for the first two, but few even acknowledge the third kind.