I wanted to follow up on the article Freedom From Paralyzing Fear with some stories and talking about the feedback I received. More About Freedom From Paralyzing Fear so that you could keep thinking about how this fits into your life, how it applies to your reactions to fear.
Transcript of video:
Hi, this is Kit Cassingham. I wanted to shoot a quick video to discuss some of the responses I got to the article about Frozen with Fear and overcoming the paralysis of fear. And I want to start with a couple of stories, stories of people from my past who reacted differently to their fear.
The first is my ex-husband who, as I was getting into computers, I advised him that he really needed to learn his job on the computer because one day the computer would do his job. He didn’t believe me and he kept going and being told what a great employee was. And then one day they replaced him with a computer. He now does know computers and has a different job; he works for himself now. He was afraid of the change so he didn’t want to have to deal with the change.
Another is a couple that I used to know. He is an engineer — loves ham radio and she’s an artist, a brilliant artist. He was really getting into making videos to teach people how to do ham radio. He was having fun — wasn’t making any money but he was having a blast. He worked his way through the various levels of ham radio, teaching classes. He got better and better. As the books revised, he would change it. He has replaced his engineering income with his earnings from YouTube.
His wife is a brilliant artist and teacher. I’ve taken a class from her and she took me from being a — an interesting dabbler — to having promise of talent. I’m not pursuing it so there won’t be talent coming from it, but I know her teaching skills. And he and I tried to get her to start teaching classes via video online. She was scared of the camera and of working online. So she never did it, but kept doing her painting and just gets better and better all the time. And I would point out to her other people who were teaching classes and how well they were doing and they aren’t as good as artists as she. But she didn’t do it. She’s kind of behind now [as far as teaching online]. I suppose she could do it and make her own niche but she won’t have as much [online] talent as she would have had if she had started several years ago.
So you know being frozen with fear keeps us from walking across suspension bridges or rope bridges, keeps us from traveling to foreign countries, or to the next state or country. It keeps us from tackling learning new things and learning new skills. Today we all have to level up and start doing things differently than we did before. So put yourself…you know you can be afraid — it’s natural, but do it anyway. Take baby steps. You don’t have to teach a 30-minute class or have a 30-minute lecture. Start with a two-minute class and work your way up, or a
two-minute lecture and work you way up. But we’re all going to be doing things differently. Don’t let your fear paralyze you.
That is my comment today. I’ll be coming out with another article soon but I wanted to bring this full circle.
I got several responses both on the comments section of the post and personal letters. One that tickled me — was one letter that tickled me most said “I’m not paralyzed by fear, but….” and then proceeded to tell me all the changes that were being made and how uncomfortable it was. True, not paralyzed — but these were changes that had been discussed being made years ago. Some of the comments were about “Oh I wanted to do that bridge, but we couldn’t stop there.” “I would have been trembling knees but I would have gone.”
So, we all react to fear differently. We react to that being paralyzed. You know the wobbly knees are a form of being paralyzed, but you move through it, you take action. You got it nailed.
Signing off for now. Kit Cassingham, wishing you a most wonderful day. Bye.