People want to be heard and understood, though that’s not always clear from their words and actions.

The best way to accomplish that is to actively listen, ask clarifying questions along the way. The trick is to ask about their feelings by reflecting back what you hear and see. This isn’t the time to offer your opinions or feelings. Stay focused on their feelings until they don’t have anything more to say. You’ll feel the shift in energy, the clue they feel heard and understood.

After people feel heard and understood they can proceed with the business at hand, be that change or the reason for being with you.

How committed are you to your dreams, goals, and purpose? Will you give up plans you’ve made when your Purpose needs your attention?

When my Camino walking partner chose her Purpose over her plans to walk the Camino I was struck by her dedication to that Purpose. I pondered: if I were as committed to building my business and spreading my word about high performance living and the gift of ADD, would my Purpose be reached? My conclusion was…Yes.

When you put your goal, your Purpose, before anything else, that’s commitment. Do you have what it takes to be that committed?

Action overcomes all that holds me back in life. Taking action moves me forward.  Taking Massive Action propels me toward my goals. That’s what I did when I made the decision to postpone my Pilgrimage on the Camino de Santiago. After planning and training for a year and a half my initial reaction was to wonder what I was going to do next! That reaction lasted seconds, maybe minutes.

First, I called my walking friends and suggested a long walk. Second, I contacted all the people in charge of the speaking opportunities I was missing when I was going to be on the Camino (and quickly was accepted in one event). Third, I started polishing my presentation that I’d be using for at least two of those events. I took massive action and am having massive results.

Fourth, I did my Spanish class for the day.  🙂  I’ll keep training for my postponed Camino so I’m ready when it’s time.

What massive action toward your goals can you take in your life?

Tough decisions have to be made sometimes. How do you handle those situations?

The proactive approach is to do something that supports your heart, soul, and mind. Since I wasn’t going to be walking the Camino de Santiago during September and October, as planned for a year and a half, I decided to invite my walking friends to go walking with me for a day. That was a great step, so to speak, to take to help me get past the dramatic change in my plans.